You’re Gonna Feel Stuck Until You Respect Where You Are
You keep solving problems for a version of yourself that doesn’t exist. Start by taking your current bandwidth seriously.
Writing topic
Life
Personal stories about relationships, money, growth, boundaries, self-care, and what everyday experiences reveal when you look twice.
22 articles, ordered from newest to oldest.
Three Things I Know on My Birthday
What I’m Taking Into My Next Year
Who Do You Think You Are, I Am? Fixing My Toyota RAV4 Mirror Myself
Someone took out the driver’s-side mirror on my 2014 Toyota RAV4, so I ordered a replacement and figured out how to install it myself.
My brain knows I'm safe, but my body hasn't caught up yet
How our survival responses outlive the conditions that created them
How to have a great spring
Strict goals make me shut down, but putting a little intentional energy in one direction helps immensely. Grab a calendar. Let’s get started.
Keeping the peace can cost you connection
I thought keeping the peace would protect connection. Sometimes swallowing my discomfort only created more distance.
You don't have to earn the right to leave
You don’t have to prove a situation is bad enough before you leave it. You don’t have to earn permission to go.
Let Them Suffer: Why stepping back might be the most loving move.
This is my era of letting them suffer. I’m learning that boundaries sometimes mean letting people face the consequences I want to rescue them from.
The fantasy of being naturally talented
I kept thinking talented people should just be good from the start. Trying stand-up made me confront how much that fantasy was holding me back.
oops! I'm better at earning things than receiving them
The opportunities, relationships, and moments I nearly missed by trying to earn them twice.
The time I cussed everyone out at church
“Your mother’s a WHORE,” I yelled, just fifteen feet from the priest. I had no idea what I was saying.
Facing the Fear of Looking “Slow”
I started playing Sudoku, and it felt like walking straight into a room I’d avoided my whole life: looking slow and being a beginner.
🏯What does your emotional fortress look like? I can tell you.
What does your emotional fortress look like? I can tell you by helping you understand your attachment style.
I Learned How To Say Goodbye to Important Things
I lived in this apartment for six years. Leaving it taught me how much a place can hold and how hard it can be to say goodbye.
Before You Give Up, Try These Three Simple Tactics
I’m so excited…I’m so excited…I’m so…SCARED. Before you give up, try these three things.
When You're Too Far Gone For Self Care : The Valley Of Depletion
Sometimes I get so depleted that ordinary self-care feels inaccessible. I call it the valley of depletion.
How to Use Uber or Lyft without a Smartphone
Don’t have access to your smartphone? Maybe you’re just a badass OG. Here’s how to request an Uber or Lyft without the app.
5 Stars: I Made Out with my Uber Driver and it Only Cost Me $6.65
Uber drivers are working hard for their five stars nowadays. Before we know it, Uber could become the new Grindr.
I Charged a Fuccboi an “Inconvenience Fee” for Wasting My Time
Sometimes I’m just petty af. Grab some popcorn. It’s story time.
6 Things I Wish I Knew Before Getting into Student Loan Debt
Student loans are THA DEBIL. Here are the six things I wish I knew before getting into student loan debt. Spoiler alert: don’t.
Renting is "Throwing Money Away"–BUT THE GAG IS–(it's not.)
Don’t make huge financial decisions based on lazy clichés.
The Financial Tools That Didn't Stress Me Out
The tools I used to keep and track my money without stressing me tf out.